I believe that being true to yourself is something that is different for every person. Some people find it easy and have high confidence and self- esteem, whilst others worry about being judged. First of all, a definition of being true to yourself might be helpful. Being true to yourself is about accepting yourself and not worrying about what others think of you. It is ok to be different and we should embrace our individuality rather than trying to hide from it. This is one of those times when something is easier said than done. You can tell someone to stop worrying about what others think and to be themselves, however, there will come a time when you will struggle to take your own advice. Have you ever walked into a room where everyone else stopped to stare at you? How did this make you feel? This instantly lowers our self-confidence and soon we begin to doubt ourselves, as though the others are judging us. This leads us to pretending to be someone else so we can fit in and be accepted by others. If we choose to listen to those who tell us we can’t be us, we will soon come to believe that, however, if we choose to ignore them and be ourselves, we will have gained mental strength and confidence in ourselves.
Self- confidence plays a huge role in our ability to be true to ourselves. In order for others to accept us, we must first learn to accept ourselves by having confidence that being ourselves is a good thing. Rather than being the ‘sheep’ who follows the latest trends and styles just to fit in, it is better for us to do what we want and enjoy ourselves. A great way to build our self- confidence is to not worry about our flaws, nobody’s perfect, and focus on our positive qualities! Choose to hang around with people who have similar qualities to you. Having the ability to accept yourself because of confidence is seen in Glee episode Theatricality where Kurt is unphased by the phone call his father receives from a fellow student, calling him a fag. Kurt is proud...
‘ You may think you stand alone because you chose to be true to you. But, by doing so, you actually attract people to you who will truly respect who you are.’
I don’t know how many people find it hard to be true to who they are. It can be a difficult thing to do because when you stand for something and it differs from what another person may think or believe, it can become apparent that your differing stand point can create a distance between you that might not otherwise be there. So what do you do? What if what you fundamentally believe to be right is not what someone else believes? What if what the other believes is a view you just cannot hold… what if what you believe to be true is part of what is your essence and the other just doesn’t seem to appreciate or respect that. And what if you feel you want to blow the whistle on something..something you know is wrong and something that goes against what you believe to be right? Do you go forward and take a step to intervene or do you hold back? Often, by taking a stand a loss of some sort can be felt but is that enough reason not to stand by your convictions?
Often in life, people have different views. You don’t have to listen too long to the news to know that deeply held views and beliefs can lead to conflict, war and intense pain and anguish. And even regarding war and peace, differing views exist. Some see the merit of war, some the futility and brutality of it. Some dedicate their entire life’s work to making peace, some see peace as an impossible dream. In all of our lives, moments arise when we need to ask ourselves some fundamental questions. Large questions like what it is we stand for and smaller ones such as what to do in relation to a matter that may come to your attention and that you believe to be wrong. I know that for some, a passionate belief in something can become lost inside and never given a voice because to say out loud what you really feel about what might be happening or what someone might be doing can cause alienation or even threats and intimidation. Sometimes too, the idea of intervening or taking a stand can seem daunting, especially if the person or thing you wish to take a stand against is a bully or has power to wield in some way. It takes courage to stand up for what you believe is right and it can at times cause you losses but in the end, it is my belief that being true to yourself is the best way forward. People will always hold different views but if you believe something is wrong or someone is acting in an unjust or unethical way, then it is ok to say it. Be true to yourself. Even if it means you in some sense may lose…. at least you know that you had the courage of your convictions and that you stayed true to beliefs you hold dear. There is only one unique you…. and not everyone is going to see things your way but that doesn’t mean you can’t take a stand and say what it is you wish to say. One voice can be all it takes sometimes to point out what’s not ok. One person can change things…..maybe it will be you…….